This is for the consciously awakened male! I see you. I appreciate your work. I recognize how difficult it is to break generations of ancestral programming.

I had a session with a client recently. He was hurt. He was devastated. His relationship ended, blindsiding him, turning his life upside down.

He said he didn’t see it coming. When I began to question certain pivotal challenges he had an “Aha moment.” The red flags were there. They had always been there. Days later he called me with a different perspective. The narrative was shifting. I was witnessing an energetic conscious clearing. He was moving out of the victim mentality.

That doesn’t negate the hurt and betrayal. It doesn’t erase the profound emotional attachment. It doesn’t change how it feels in moments when you are trying to just get through an event. Memories can cut deeper than knives. The ego always tells a different version. It likes to keep you busy!

But, there is something to be said for mapping it out; for recognizing that you weren’t “played.” You just loved and trusted. You had major lessons in that relationship. You are human. Your spiritual essence was having a very human experience in order to evolve.

The thing about trust is that once it’s broken it’s hard to put together. It also lets you see in a way that you can’t ever unsee again. You have to be willing to sit with it, ask questions, and recognize a lot of things that are painful.

So now we work on building a new foundation. We work on him without her. We work on the self worth and self esteem that had been tied to that relationship. We begin to step away from narcissism and the trail of destruction it leaves behind. We work to untie whatever karmic lessons or obstacles the relationship represented. Every single connection brings something to the surface. They leave mile markers. We can work on moving past the scenery and what those experiences teach us.

One thing that is for certain is that once you loved you can always love again. It doesn’t disappear. It transforms in time. He insists that he will never love again. He could never trust again. Right now it’s hard to even go to that place.

Time heals. Instead of jumping into another relationship while cowardly avoiding being alone, he is doing the work. He is visiting the wounds and releasing whatever got him here. He is seeing his ancestral lineage and how he has picked similar partners based on what he grew up with. He has support now. He’s not avoiding it. He is truly magnificently doing the work.

Kudos to men who are willing to do this. Omgosh! I know it’s not in their blueprints. So when I come in contact with one who is willing to step back and heal... wow! It’s deeply powerful to witness. It is painful and destructive at times, so to see a man put himself through that vulnerability is an honor.

This is battling war with no armor. This is an emotional zone that leaves you depleted. Don’t avoid the things that hurt, darlings. It takes whatever it takes. Doing the work is excruciating, but it’s even harder to avoid the work and continue to repeat patterns. It takes a massive amount of heroism to face the role you played in a relationship and why you were attracted to that person. It triggers old traumas from way back!

You are not alone! You are always supported by Divine guidance. Get help. Truly do the work so that you can heal and help heal others.

I love you.

Millie