You Will Get Through It

I had a session with a client recently. He was hurt. He was devastated. His relationship ended, blindsiding him, turning his life upside down.

He said he didn’t see it coming. When I began to question certain occasions he had an Aha moment. The red flags were there. They had always been there. Days later he called me with a different perspective.

That doesn’t negate the hurt and betrayal. It doesn’t erase the profound emotional attachment. It doesn’t change how it feels in moments when you are trying to just get through an event. Memories can cut deeper than knives.

But, there is something to be said for mapping it out; for recognizing that you weren’t “played.” You just loved and trusted. You had major lessons in that relationship.

The thing about trust is that once it’s broken it’s hard to put together. It also lets you see in a way that you can’t ever un-see again.

So now we work on building a foundation. We work on him without her. We work on the self worth and self esteem that had been tied to that relationship. We work to untie whatever karmic lessons or obstacles the relationship represented.

One thing that is for certain is that once you loved you can always love again. It doesn’t disappear. It transforms in time. He insists that he will never love again. He could never trust again.

Time heals. Instead of jumping into another relationship while cowardly avoiding being alone, he is doing the work. He is visiting the wounds and releasing whatever got him here. He has support. He’s not avoiding it. He is truly magnificently doing the work.

Kudos to men who are willing to do this. Omgosh! I know it’s not in their blueprints. So when I come in contact with one who is willing to step back and heal... wow! It’s deeply powerful to witness.

Don’t avoid the things that hurt, darlings. It takes whatever it takes. Doing the work is hard, but it’s even harder to avoid the work and continue to repeat patterns. It takes a massive amount of heroism to face the role you played in a relationship.

You are not alone! Believe in yourself. I love you.

Millie